Nearly two decades ago, I was thrust into the midst of monumental change. After putting my husband through grad school, I quit my job, we packed our car, put what wouldn’t fit into storage, and drove across the country with our three year old to stay with our families while he looked for employment.
Huge changes, right? But that was just the tip of the iceberg. You see, what I thought was the beginning of a new chapter in our lives was actually the end of my marriage. I was literally dumped on my mother’s doorstep. The man I’d been with since my first year of college had engineered a plan to leave me with nothing…not my child, my belongings, or my self esteem.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not confessing some great tragedy here. The truth is I’m grateful for how things unfolded because it was a pivotal time for me; it paved the way for the life I have now. But it also forced me to make some critical decisions about change. As overwhelmed as I was, as much as I needed to face and sort out, the only way I could tackle all of those changes was one at a time.
Change rarely presents itself neatly, when you’re prepared, or in bite-sized portions. But that doesn’t mean you are destined to be caught off guard like I was. In fact, if you proactively monitor your life and assess what needs to be changed, you can often choose your changes before they choose you.
This week I’m teaching you a killer formula to determine where to start. It’s surprisingly simple. You’ll need to use your answers from last week. So if you missed it, hop over to the previous podcast, have a listen, and download and complete the worksheet. Then come on back to this podcast for step by step instructions for my foolproof method of pinpointing the one change your heart yearns for the most right now.
And in case you’re wondering, I got everything I needed back those 20 years ago. I raised a fine young man and I’m more awesome than ever!
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