We all have that one friend. You know who I’m talking about. She never seems to truly listen to what you say. You can pour your heart out to her about how you just wrecked your car and will be broke and riding the bus for the next two months and before you’ve finished your tale of woe, she’s already bored, checking her phone, and interrupting you to ask for a ride to the store. She asks you vague, polite questions and immediately transitions into an angry monologue about her boss before you can get a word in edgewise.
Then a week later, she texts you, asking if you want to go out to have dinner and a movie…and B T Dubs, can you pick her up?
We all have that one friend. But what’s worse is this: We are all guilty of sometimes being that friend.
You’ve heard the cliche that communication is a two-way street. It’s a cliche because it’s true. But often it’s easy to get so caught up in what’s going on in your own lane that you wind up paying no attention to oncoming humans. And that’s when communication accidents are most likely to happen.
Last week I helped you identify potential communication breakdowns that can be caused by what you say and how you say it. And I bet if you’re using the techniques I shared to remedy that, you’ve already noticed a marked improvement in the quality of your conversations and relationships.
This week I discuss the other part of the equation: Listening. And I saved the bigger piece for of the pie for last. So sit back, click play, and let me share three major ninja tricks guaranteed to instantly improve your listening skills. You won’t believe your ears.
Warning: Do not try this at home unless you’re ready for instant and amazing results!
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