Managing Your Stress During the Holidays and Beyond: Tip #1 – Accept What Is

“Too often, we have a mindset that the holidays are supposed to be a happy time, not a stressful time. Well, it can be both happy and stressful. Acknowledge that and take it in stride.”

— Donald E. Williams, Ph.D.

That time of year is upon us again. Just as we wrap up all those Thanksgiving leftovers, the hustle and bustle of the December holidays sets in. Shopping lists, decorations, parties to attend, meals to plan, family members to visit, and the list goes on. More to do and less time to do it. Expectations of the “perfect” celebration or the exoneration of past imperfect ones.

For many of us, the holidays can be source of stress. But moreso because of the expectations we place upon ourselves, which are often driven by the messages we hear and see (and feel) from others, like family members or the media.

When the messages of being perfect, having it all together, and doing what you are “supposed” to do this holiday season get too much, just stop and take a breath. Today’s tip is simply…

Accept What is

Take a moment to just BE with what is, regardless of what it is. Accept that:

• There are only 24 hours in a day.
• The holiday season will come and go.
• Plans can change.
• Your worth (and worthiness) is NOT tied to the gifts you give, the money you spend, or the amount of decorations on your lawn.

Is there something else you need to accept right now to make your holidays a little less stressful?

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