3 Steps That Help You Take Charge of Your Internal Business & Live a More Fulfilling Life by Barbara Iuliano
Guest Post by Barbara Iuliano
Getting out of your own damn way is one slice of the cake, if you want the legendary cherry, you’ve got to get others out of the way too.
Sabotage, toxicity, and self-doubt were my trustworthy associates. My extreme insecurities constantly met their payroll demands so they stayed for longer than they should of. Almost getting used to having such detrimental employees, I realized that my inner business was burning to ashes.
When something doesn’t work for you, it works against you. Even though it took me a long time to fire these three partners, once I realized my inner and outer operations where worth much more, it became a simple and aligned task.
Every once in a while they come back asking for their jobs, but I filled their positions with self-love, self-belief, and self-respect. Three employees that I make sure get constant bonuses and feel at home while they work with me.
The thing is, to get to this level of business, we have to do a lot of work on our own. Work that at first feels unrewarding, unfulfilling, and borderline impossible.
So how do we take charge of our inner empire?
Everyone will face a different journey and encounter distinct obstacles; however, I believe that if you follow these 3 steps there is no way that your inner institution will not begin to shift.
Get The Right Kind of Support!
Friends and family are great but they may not have the training or awareness to help you move past the emotional turmoil. Sometimes they may even bring you down or hurt you more. If you are ready to do so, look for a good coach to assist you with your confidence. A lot of them offer complimentary sessions so try a few out to find one that meets your needs and style.
Don’t Be Afraid to Kick People Out
You’ll never be able to let go of your internally damaging associates if you don’t let go of your real life harmful friends, family members, partners, or co-workers. Some people will just continue to bring you down because they have their own issues and insecurities. It is your right to decide who you allow into your life and who you don’t.
Do One Thing You Don’t Believe You Can Do
Don’t be afraid to prove yourself wrong every month. Start small and work your way up. If you don’t think you can cook, find a basic recipe and make it. If you you don’t believe you can run, start by walking and consecutively speeding your legs up. Every time you do something you didn’t think possible, you gain leadership back within your own inner establishment.
There was a point of my life where I knew that if I wanted to believe in myself and be happy then I had to do these three things. I cut off destructive relationship, I proved myself I could do things I thought I couldn’t, and eventually when the time was opportune I got support. This is how I ended up with not just my cherry on top, but a whole bakery where I roast personal fulfillment and satisfaction on the daily.
ABOUT THIS GUEST: Barbara Iuliano is a certified life and confidence coach, currently studying Mind-Body Transformational Psychology at the Southwest Institute of Healing Arts. As the founder of her coaching practice Starland Coaching, Barbara empowers women like herself to lead the lives they always dreamed of but never thought possible. She recently embarked on a mission to help female entrepreneurs get confident in front of the camera. In her new challenge, The Art of Video Confidence, she helps them bust through insecurities, deal with critics, and overcome perfectionism and procrastination. www.starlandcoaching.com
Listen to Barbara’s Get Out of Your Own Damn Way podcast interview HERE.
