5 Tips for Getting What You Want
“Our job as creators is the what and the support we will be given from the universe is the how.” ~Sonia Choquette as interviewed by Jennifer McLean on Healing with the Masters
Imagine, if you will, a boxing ring. In one corner is something you want – a goal. It could be something you want to buy or something you want to achieve. If that goal were a person, imagine what he/she would look like. How tall, how big, what does their face look like, and what kind of feeling do you get when you look at them? This person represents WHAT you want.
Now, in the other corner is everything that needs to happen before you can get your goal. It could be money, time, energy, or a number of other things. If the thing (or things) that need to happen before you achieve your goal were a person, what would he/she look like? How tall, how big, what does their face look like, and what kind of feeling do you get when you look at them? AND how is it different from the person in the opposite corner? This person represents HOW you get WHAT you want.
And if you want to go even further, imagine these two people actually going at it in the boxing ring. Who throws the first punch and who wins the first round? I’m guessing you either have a smile on your face imagining this scene or a look of frustration or fear.
To be honest, my HOW person seems about 10x bigger, scarier, and more menacing than my WHAT person, who seems very sweet, happy, and ready to conquer the world. But to be brutally honest, these two people are actually two sides of the same person…me.
Often, we get caught up in the HOW of the situation when really we should focus on the WHAT. What do YOU want? Think about it. And then think about it some more. Does your mind stay focused on the WHAT or does it wander to the HOW? I’m the first to admit my mind spends a lot of time thinking of HOW, getting stuck in HOW, which leads to negativity, frustration, and fear. I find when I’m able to stay focused on WHAT I want, the HOW works itself out. People and opportunities magically show up at the perfect time that help support me in manifesting my WHAT.
Here’s some tips to help you find and focus on your WHAT:
- Set aside a chunk of time, whether it’s 5 minutes or 50. Have a pen and paper (or computer) nearby. Take some deep breaths. Close your eyes if you want. And just sink into your imagination to think about what it is you want right now. Get as silly as you want. The idea is to have fun and not get caught up in all the mechanics of how to make it happen. Then, write down your ideas.
- Pick ONE of your ideas that you really want to work on. Spend time focusing on it. Write down as much details as you can. Then TALK to someone you trust about your idea, asking them to just listen. And
- Spend a few minutes each day answering this question: “If I weren’t afraid I would…” Notice any recurring answers or themes.
- Identify a safe and supportive person in your life. This is someone who lets you be you and doesn’t judge you for it. Ask them to help you focus on the WHAT and gently remind you when you are getting caught up in the HOW.
- Make notes with your WHAT written on it and post them around your house, car, or office to help you stay focused.
Now all you need to do is sit back and watch the how unfold in front of you. I’d love to hear WHAT you want in your life and HOW it is manifesting for you. Leave a comment below.
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