Are You (Really) Where You Want To Be?
If you’ve been in my tribe for any length of time, you know that the inspiration for everything I do comes from my own life. Everything from the articles I write, the newsletters I send, the social media posts, the workshops, conferences, and products I create and promote – all come from the lessons I’ve learned both personally and professionally to help others move through transitions, fear, burnout, stress, and overwhelm to lead a more productive, healthier, happier, more deliberate, creative, and passionate life.
As 2014 comes to a close, I’ve already started reflecting on everything that’s happened over the last year, and it’s A LOT. I know I’m not the only one facing tremendous challenges, changes, and transitions (forced and planned), and it got me to thinking of how I can best serve YOU, my tribe, as we move into yet another year.
I’ve put together a series of three blog posts chock-full of some great tips and inspirations to help YOU, since I know this can be a challenging time of year.
Here’s a question for you:
As we come to the close of yet another year, are you where you want to be?
If so, then you can stop reading now. But if not…keep going.
Despite our best intentions and efforts, we get side-tracked. Life happens. Circumstances beyond our control rear their not-so-pretty little heads. And we can find that where we wanted to go is miles away from where we are. It happens to all of us.
At this point, when we KNOW we’re not where we want to be, we have one of two choices:
- Accept it, OR
- Whine, kick, scream, and otherwise throw a tantrum (otherwise known as NOT accepting it or resisting it)
Sound familiar? I’m guessing you’ve chosen both routes at one point or another (just like I have). And that you know which one is more likely to help you re-adjust and either get to where you want to be or get you closer to where you want to be.
Yep, acceptance is key.
But if you’re more steeped behind door #2 right now (or can get in touch with that experience), here’s the next question:
Where is all that whining, kicking, screaming, tantruming, and RESISTING WHAT IS getting you?
Chances are it’s getting you more of what you DON’T want. More stuckness, unhappiness, resentment, anger, fear, loneliness, worry, stress…the list goes on.
You see, what we focus on expands. What we resist persists. There’s a bunch of trite ways to say it, but it all boils down to where we put our attention. If our attention is on the ick, then that’s what we see and experience.
And that ick can look and feel like:
- Fatigue
- Poor concentration
- Low energy and motivation
- The blah’s
- Muscle aches and pains
- Thoughts spinning around in your head (which I call the “thought spiral”)
- Shoulding all over yourself (“I should do this…I shouldn’t do that”)
- Worrying about every little thing
- Fear
- Stress and overwhelm
- …And so on
But, the good news is that just as we can choose to focus on the not so desirable stuff, we can also learn to focus more on what we DO want and have THAT expand and be our experience.
Imagine what life would it be like if you could:
- Wake up excited and energized about your day, rather than dreading it
- Practice simple, proven techniques that can skyrocket your confidence and self esteem
- Bust through the barriers that keep you stuck
- Easily let go of stuff that doesn’t serve you
Sounds pretty good, right?
And it is possible!
How do I know? Because I’ve been able to do it AND teach my clients how do it too.
In an upcoming post, I’ll share with you the three categories of healing that can help YOU get back on track to getting what you want more of.
So get to thinking about what it is that you want. Here’s some questions you can think (and/or journal) about to help you gain some clarity:
- If (money / time / _____) weren’t a factor, what would I really like to be doing with my life?
- What are the real barriers keeping me stuck right now? What are the imagined ones?
- What am I gaining by NOT being where I want to be?
- What am I losing by NOT being where I want to be?
- What do I really want?
- What is ONE thing I can give up in order to get what I want?
- Am I really ready to do what it takes to get what I want?
Happy healing!
Got a comment to share about what you want more of? Leave a comment below.
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