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Listen to Wendy Whitmore’s “Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Story” on September 3, 2015
Join me as I interview Wendy Whitmore on Thursday, September 3, as part of the Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Jam Sessions. Powerful people sharing powerful stories of how they tamed their fears, embraced their greatness, and got out of their own damn way.
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ABOUT THIS GUEST: Wendy is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) & life coach. As an expert clinician & life coach, she works with her clients to develop their goals and tailor their treatment plan to meet their particular needs. As a wife, mother and business owner, she empathizes with her clients and their daily struggle to maintain balance in their life, and works with them to achieve a sense of emotional and mental stability. As a result of working with Wendy, her clients are able to embrace life’s struggles, while maintaining a healthy balance of life and love, and keep their emotional and mental stability intact. Wendy has over 10 years’ experience working with couples, families, children, adolescents & individuals seeking treatment for depression, survivors of trauma (abuse), & life adjustments. She has extensive experience in private practice, school, group home (for at risk youth ages 12 to 18), & hospital (specializing in adolescent intensive outpatient care; adolescent i.o.p) settings. As a published writer, motivational speaker, guest lecturer and community activist; Wendy has a passion for freeing individuals of the grudges and struggles that keep them from living life to it’s greatest potential. She teaches the motto, “If it is not enhancing your life, it/they, has no place in your life.”
Veruca Salt Ain’t Got Nothing On Me: 4 Tips to Get Over Your Patience-Challenged Self
In a world where you can order food, clothing, education, and people online (or on your phone) with the touch of a button or a swipe to the right and have them appear within minutes, it’s no wonder we can get a sense of urgency about EVERYTHING.
If patience is a virtue, then we’re doomed.
But when I was growing up, I was taught that the things in life worth having were things that took time and effort. Do you see my dilemma?
Even though like Veruka Salt of Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory “I want it and I want it NOW,” I also know it takes time and effort to get it. And that once we set our intention and our goal, our work has really just begun. The universe will continually test us to make sure we really want it.
This certainly could not have been truer during my recent re-branding process.
Luckily, in addition to some really great tools for shifting my thinking and my mood, I also have a great support system of friends, colleagues, and a kick-ass coach who all know about my restless nature and instead of allowing me to wallow in it help me learn from it.
So if you are patience-challenged, like me, when going after your big juicy dreams (in business OR in life), then these tips may be just what you need to GET OVER YOURSELF and muster up the strength to keep moving forward toward greatness:
- Define your success. Nothing unleashes the green-eyed monster of envy faster than a skewed sense of success. In traditional business, success is often equated with money. But not everyone measures success that way. For me, success if about getting out of my comfort zone, being more visible, speaking my truth, and making an impact.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. We all can fall prey to the comparison trap. But we have to remember that what we see on the outside is rarely what’s happening on the inside. I cannot tell you how many colleagues of mine have had the same experience as me of taking their business to the next level and having their personal lives fall to pieces concurrently. But on the outside, all others see is the prettiness of the business growth. When you find yourself wishing you had what others had, realize you’re not only wising for the good stuff, but the not so good stuff.
- Align yourself with what you want (not what you don’t). It’s amazing how much we focus on what we DON’T want. I catch myself doing that and nip it in the bud as quickly as possible. If what we focus on is what we create, then why (oh, why) would we want to focus on anything but what we want?
- Don’t quit before the miracle. Setbacks are part of the deal. The path from where you are now to where you want to be is NOT a straight, perfect line. It’s a curvy, jagged, winding road with detours, potholes, and inclement weather. The real work isn’t about getting to the end, it’s about managing all the crap that came up in the process of getting there.
If we got what we want immediately all the time, I truly believe we wouldn’t really appreciate it. The lessons and challenges we have along the way teach us so much and allow us the opportunity to really appreciate what we have.
So, move over you Verucas of the world. It’s time to actually put in the time and effort to get what you want. You’ll be soooo glad you did!
Got anything to share about your patience challenges and how you’ve dealt with them? Leave a comment below.
Meanwhile enjoy this blast from the past, Miss Veruca in action…
Listen to StevieAnne Petitt’s “Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Story” on August 27, 2015
Join me as I interview StevieAnne Petitt on Thursday, August 27, as part of the Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Jam Sessions. Powerful people sharing powerful stories of how they tamed their fears, embraced their greatness, and got out of their own damn way. Sign up to listen in for free by entering your name and email below.
[color-box]Thursday, August 27, 2015, 11:00AM PST / 2:00PM EST
StevieAnne Petitt | begin-being.com
As a Conscious Comedian and Published Author, StevieAnne Petitt takes a comedic approach to conscious living, empowering others to live prosperously in their passion and purpose, while “Lightening up Enlightenment”. A former group home and state-owned youth, StevieAnne is especially passionate about mentoring youth and encouraging them to live as the Greatest Expression of Self.
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Breathe Away Stress
Breathing is something we do (and don’t do) without even thinking about it. Anytime you do something on auto-pilot, there’s a chance you could be missing something.
Take a moment now to focus in on your breath. What do you notice? Is your breathing long, deep, and slow? Or more short, shallow, and fast? Are you holding your breath? If you are experiencing any stress, chances are you are taking short, shallow breaths. And if you experience stress often, you likely breathe this way most of the time without even realizing it. This means your body and brain aren’t getting the oxygen they need to adequately respond to stress.
But taking time to be aware of and adjust your breathing is important for other reasons besides managing stress. Our breath supports us in our emotional, physical, and spiritual health. When faced with any kind of challenge, be sure that your breathing will be affected. Have you ever caught yourself holding your breath when getting bad news or watching a scary movie?
Here are some tips to change things up a bit and bring some awareness to your breathing so you can manage that stress:
- If you notice you are breathing shallow, focus on taking long, deep breaths to fill up your lungs.
- Make sure you breathe all the way out.
- Set a timer for 5 minutes and continue to focus on your breathing during that time.
- Set a reminder to focus on your breathing several times throughout the day.
- Focus on a word as you breathe in (such as calm, peace, love, etc.)
- Focus on releasing any tension in your body as you breathe out.
The best time to practice new breathing techniques (or any new techniques for that matter) is during times of low stress so that your body can get used to something new. The more you practice, the easier it will be to use these new techniques when you really need them.
For even more great breathing tips, check out the Back to Balance Meditations, Volume 1: Using the Breath.
Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable
In the months of my re-branding process (and even in the months leading up to it), I’ve had a creative surge. But most of my ideas aren’t really new. THANK GOODNESS!!
As part of me getting clearer about who I am and what I stand for, I’ve been able to embrace projects that have been abandoned over the years. I’m no stranger to branding. This is my third time to the rodeo in four years. But what’s so different this time around is that I’m deadest on bringing anything I’ve created that involves the theme of GETTING OUT OF YOUR OWN DAMN WAY to light.
No more hiding. No more abandoning my babies. No more excuses.
Nope. It’s ride or die time.
Several years ago when I began imagining my dream business, I thought of all the ways I could help people using all my talents, skills, and passions. The list was LONG, and got longer.
Us creative types can get a bit sidetracked and overwhelmed. Coming up with ideas is never the problem. The problem is in finishing them. And that’s exactly where I got stuck.
Yet I didn’t get stuck in places I expected to get stuck, like in how to get things done. The how is the easy part. How involves processes, technology, resources, and systems. I know a heck of a little about a lot of things and can usually find my way through the “how” stuckness. If not, that’s what virtual assistants and other techies are for.
No I got stuck in the why part. This is the trickier part, the part that brings up the inner critic and the ugly fear monster that whispers very unsweet nothings in your ear like:
- Who do you think you are to bring your work into the world
- Nobody wants to hear what you have to say
- You’re not perfect, so you’re a fraud
DAMN those fearful thoughts!
But part of the re-branding process for me has been learning to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Shocker. This is a phrase I use with my clients all the time. And now the tables turned. In order to bring my vision to light, I had to come to terms with the absolute and undeniable FACT that things were gonna get downright uncomfortable, meaning the inner voices of self-doubt and fear were going to get friggin’ loud.
As I braced myself for the onslaught of negativity, something strange happened. It didn’t really come. At least not as roaring and loud as I had anticipated. What happened is that while roadblocks occurred, my inner love-bug kicked in telling me things like:
- You’re amazing
- You’ve got this
- Keep going
- You’re almost there
And you know what? I listened. I’m in my 9th month of amazing-ness. Projects are getting finished left and right. New connections are being made. New opportunities are presenting themselves. My speaking calendar has never been so booked. And more and more people are knocking down the door to work with me.
So when I talk about using fear as a catalyst rather than a crutch, I know of what I speak cause I’ve totally lived it. It is possible to tame that fear and use it to propel you forward into some amazing results.
How are you taming YOUR fear? Leave a comment below.
Photo: Performing Female Contortionist — Image by © Bernd Vogel/Corbis
Listen to Karen Trepte’s “Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Story” on August 20, 2015
Join me as I interview Karen Trepte on Thursday, August 20, as part of the Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Jam Sessions. Powerful people sharing powerful stories of how they tamed their fears, embraced their greatness, and got out of their own damn way. Sign up to listen in for free by entering your name and email below.
[color-box]Thursday, August 20, 2015, 11:00AM PST / 2:00PM EST
Karen Trepte | www.gaijinworkscoaching.com
Karen Trepte is an Intuitive Business Coach for entrepreneurs with big hearts and even bigger dreams. Her super power is turning soul whispers into business brilliance and translating confusion into clarity. She learned the ropes by starting numerous successful businesses including a flower shop and multiple MLMs. She even used to carry her daughter on her back to sales calls! Karen’s motto is “Work is joy.”
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