Want to Make Decisions More Easily? Hit Delete.

When I write, I edit as I go. Copying, pasting, moving things around, and deleting words and phrases in favor of other ones that are more descript. The delete button is often associated with erasing and correcting mistakes. But I like to think of it as my companion in helping me express myself and get my ideas, thoughts, advice, and vision out into the world. This is a subtle, yet important distinction.

Too often, we are bombarded with messages in our lives that something is wrong, we’ve made a mistake, or that we must change something in order to be (fill in the blank: happier, more fulfilled, sexier, more attractive, healthier, and the list goes on). It can be overwhelming with all these seemingly negative messages.

But there are times when just shifting our perspective, the subtle distinction, can make all the difference.

What if hitting the delete button was about:

• Changing our minds, or
• Deepening our expression, or
• Owning our value, or
• Saying no to something that doesn’t really work, or
• Being brave and vulnerable, or
• All of the above?

What if hitting the delete button applied to more than just writing? To things like:

• Walking away from a bad situation
• Getting out of an unfulfilling relationship
• Apologizing for something we said or did
• Changing our career
• Improving our health
• Following our passion

You see, when we look at any situation knowing that we can DELETE what we don’t like…or change it…it takes a lot of the pressure off. What pressure, you may ask? The pressure to be perfect, to make the “right” decision.

I know firsthand that the pressure to “get it right” (and even to get it right the first time out the gate) can be paralyzing. It can make it difficult to move forward, to take that first step. It can bring up thoughts of “why even bother” or “I need to get all these others things done before I can do this.”

In other words, living life as if there is no delete button SUCKS!

What if every time you think “I can’t do it” you could just DELETE and shift to “I can do it despite my fear?”

And whenever you think “It’s got to be perfect” you could just DELETE and shift to “I am going to do this one step and if I need to, I can change it?”

And when you get caught up in “what if I make the wrong decision” you could just DELETE and say “there are no wrong decisions only subtle distinctions to be made in how I look at this?”

How different would life be if you could DELETE the thoughts that do not serve you and shift your perspective?

I wonder…

So next time you get caught up in things needing to be a certain way, remember:

• DELETE that thought
• Shift the way you look at the situation
• You can make any changes, or course corrections you need to at any point in the process
• No matter what happens, you will be okay

How will you use your delete button? Leave a comment below to share!

Listen to Krylyn Peters’ “Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Story” on June 4, 2015

Join me as I tell MY VERY OWN story on Thursday, June 4, as part of the Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Jam Sessions. Powerful people sharing powerful stories of how they tamed their fears, embraced their greatness, and got out of their own damn way. Sign up to listen in for free by entering your name and email below.

[color-box]Thursday, June 4, 2015, 11:00AM PST / 2:00PM EST

Krylyn Peters

Krylyn Peters, “The Fear Whisperer,” is an author, speaker, coach, and singer/songwriter. Drawing on her experience as a licensed psychotherapist and her ability to easily connect with others, Krylyn creates immediate feelings of trust and integrity. Gifted with humor, saying what needs to be said, and a knack for thinking on her feet, Krylyn’s style is inviting, authentic, and fun. She motivates, inspires, and entertains – leaving people empowered with practical and proven tools to help them tame their fears and get out of their own damn way so they can step into their greatness.

Don’t worry if you miss the live interview. Sign up to get free access to the recording.

Is Fear a Choice?

What are you afraid of? Most people are afraid of some similar things, such as:

• The unknown
• Change
• Rejection
• Abandonment
• Death
• Loss
• Success
• Failure

Others have more specific fears, such as:

• Spiders
• Heights
• Needles
• Flying
• Water

Regardless of what fears you have, know this…

Fear is a base emotion that ALL humans have.

Fear is genetically hard-wired in us as a way to protect us from harm and keep us alive. It is an early warning system.

Over time and evolution, we are still hard-wired to feel fear of anything that threatens our safety. However, we no longer have the same threats to our physical safety on a regular basis (i.e. being eaten by predators). We do, however, still perceive threats…to our EMOTIONAL safety. But our bodies cannot tell the difference between a physical threat and an emotional threat. Our bodies react to protect us against any threat.

We fear being judged, criticized, rejected, abandoned, ostracized, labeled, etc. If someone looks at us a certain way, we might FEEL a certain way, which may be a threat to us feeling safe, loved, cared for, and ok. If we FEEL threatened, our THOUGHTS kick in to let us know we’re not safe, we must leave or attack or otherwise protect ourselves. Then we behave accordingly. It’s a complex system where our emotions, thoughts, and actions are all inter-connected.

It’s not a matter of getting RID of fear, it’s a matter of processing it and reacting to it differently. When someone says they want to get rid of fear, all I hear is another ploy to deny our emotions. Folks, we are all experts (in one way or another) in denying our emotions. We’ve learned to cover them up, sweep them under the rug, avoid them, medicate them, distract ourselves from them. There are industries built on how NOT to deal with emotions. The ABSOLUTE LAST THING WE NEED is another person or industry telling us to NOT FEEL WHAT WE FEEL.

What we need is help figuring out how to change our relationship with our emotions. They are NOT good or bad. They are just there to give us information. Fear is there to protect us. It serves a purpose.

So when I hear people talking about getting rid of fear or that fear is a choice, I cringe, take a deep breath, and seek to educate.

As “The Fear Whisperer,” my expertise is helping people change their relationship with fear. Fear has a lot to teach us if we will only listen. It can be a catalyst or a crutch.

So is fear a choice? NO. But how you THINK about it and how you REACT to it are.

Are you interested in changing your relationship with fear? I invite you to join me for the 30 Day Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Challenge. You’ll get 30 days of kick-butt support toward taming your fear. Seats are limited. Grabs your today at http://www.krylyn.com/30-day-challenge.

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Be Who You Are: Lessons from the Transgendered Community

On the heels of the recent Bruce Jenner interview on 20/20, I feel compelled to speak out about a topic I’m truly passionate about…

Being who you are!

Bruce referenced this phrase multiple times in his interview with Diane Sawyer. He said he is only becoming who he has already been. WOW. If that statement doesn’t make you stop and take pause, I don’t know what will.

Regardless of what you believe about gender identity, I think you can appreciate the gravity of that statement.

Transgender. It’s a topic that has touched my life, both personally and professionally. A good friend of mine transitioned several years ago, becoming the woman she always knew she was. I got to see her journey, from telling the ones she loved most, breaking up with her fiancée at the time, dealing with company policies at her Fortune 500 employer on which bathroom she was allowed to use, surgeries, hormone treatment, therapy, and finding new love.

Having seen my friend’s journey up close and personal, I have MAD RESPECT for anyone going through it. Based on everything they must endure, I’m going to say that people who transition from one gender to another are wicked strong and brave.

Let me say it another way…being who you are is the strongest and bravest thing ANYONE can do. But most of us don’t wear it on the outside for everyone to see like in the transgendered community.

As someone who has worked with clients of different races, religions, sexual orientations and identities over the years, I can tell you that being who you are is a struggle we all share. It just looks different for each of us based on our own stuff.

For some, it’s about gender. For others it’s about abuse, or trauma, or discrimination, or poverty, or religion, etc. The struggle isn’t about the THING we struggle with as much as the process of the struggle, how we are affected by it, and how we overcome it.

But there are so many things that get in the way of us being who we are, aren’t there? Things like:

• The opinions of others
• Thoughts of losing respect and love
• Lack of support and/or understanding
• Fear of rejection, change, and the unknown

These are experiences we ALL have that get in the way, regardless of our gender identity.

As Bruce mentioned in the interview, MOST people do not wake up with a daily struggle with their identity as male or female. But most people DO wake up with struggle, with something they don’t like, with something they are hiding from, running away from, or avoiding. Most people are afraid to be who they really are.

Anyone who is brave enough to stand up and stand out in order to be themselves is amazing in my book. The world needs more people willing to be who they truly are.

So my questions for you are:

• Who are you?
• What are you willing to do to be who you are?

Leave your comments below. I’d love to hear them.

Unite Your Health and Wealth: Break Free from Everyday Money Worries and Ignite your Inner Worth as you Create Radiant Health & Financial Success with Sharon Carne and Saskia Jennings

I’m so excited to interview Sharon Carne and Saskia Jennings for the second annual Creativity and Wellness Summit. They have partnered to blend some very powerful techniques for healing wounds around our health and wealth. They’ll be sharing how we can stimulate our natural healing response to resonate with increasing our financial abundance. Ummm, yes please! Sign up for FREE at: http://ow.ly/w0C90.

Health and Wealth are two sides of the same coin. One without the other leaves you struggling. Together, they are MAGIC! Every one of us has patterns of behavior (or archetypes) deep in our subconscious and once you acknowledge them, they truly help you to achieve your full potential. When you understand your Sacred Money Archetypes and recognize when they show up in your everyday life, you are empowered to make changes. When you integrate the positive aspects of these archetypal patterns with sacred sound to stimulate natural health and well-being, that’s when the MAGIC happens. Join Sharon and Saskia to:

• Gain an understanding of how the Sacred Money Archetypes shape your behavior around money.
• Participate in an experience with sacred sound that will ground the high vibration of gratitude and abundance right into your cells.
• Stimulate the natural healing response of your body at the same time you create the vibration to attract abundance into your life.

About Sharon: Sharon Carne is a renowned Sound Healer, Author, Speaker, Musician, Recording Artist, and Consultant. She has been a faculty member of The Conservatory at Mount Royal University in Calgary, Alberta since 1988. Sharon is the founder of Sound Wellness. Her Sound Wellness Solution programs are well received and are at the forefront of education in how sound and music can be easily applied to your everyday life – to reduce stress, help you concentrate, energize you and bring harmony to your life.

About Saskia: Saskia Jennings is a true Catalyst for Midlife BLISS!™, Intuitive Midlife Coach, Author, Transformational Speaker and Sacred Money Archetypes® Certified Coach; Spiritual Healer. Saskia is a member of the IAWBC: International Association of Women in Business Coaching and Women’s Speaker Association. At the age of 45, she changed her life completely as she made a courageous decision and moved (without family) from the Netherlands to rural Northern Ontario in Canada.

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Creativity Reshapes Recovery with George Herrick, Personal Transformation Coach, Spiritual/Shamanic Guide

What are YOU recovering from? Join me as I interview George Herrick, Personal Transformation Coach, Spiritual/Shamanic Guide for the second annual Creativity and Wellness Summit. George is a master of transformation and former addiction specialist who has some very powerful tools to share to help us turn fear from an enemy to an ally. Sign up for FREE at: http://ow.ly/w0C90.

It’s simple: addiction destroys lives; creativity empowers recovery. This hour is about renewing and reshaping recovery from any addiction, such as substances, relationships, shopping, even habitual thought patterns, by using our innate creativity in simple but powerful ways. Addiction is an attempt to manage fear, and creativity can be a great tool for turning fear from an enemy to an ally. George will share his unique blend of creativity, spirituality, shamanism and recovery principles to guide us from fear and negativity to feelings of aliveness and well-being. If you have any old patterns that you’re ready to change, you want to show up for this interview! In the presentation, you will:

• Know yourself better.
• See how to love yourself more deeply.
• Learn ways to be yourself more authentically.
• Discover aspects of yourself you’ll want to share with others in meaningful ways.
• Appreciate the power of your creativity in some bold new ways.

About George: George has a solid reputation for helping people transform their lives. Having worked for over a decade as family and addictions counselor, and with nearly 20 years’ experience as a life coach, he has helped countless people make the changes they desired. His workshops, retreats, and live media appearances have inspired many more. George’s mission is that every experience he creates with his clients is like a powerhouse retreat, facilitating deep and lasting growth.

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