Why You Aren’t Reaching Those Goals

Have you ever had one of those days when you look around at your life and wonder “how the heck did I end up here?” When we’re younger, we have ideas about how our life will turn out. We think about the relationships we’ll have, creating a family, having a career, the type of lifestyle we want, etc. But things happen along the way. Unexpected things Things we don’t have control over (and some things we do). We get sidetracked, distracted, and can end up somewhere very different than we originally planned.

Sometimes we get so discouraged when we end up somewhere else that we might give up or stop making plans. But in the end, the person who suffers most from this kind of attitude is us.

When we set goals for ourselves, there can be many reasons we don’t reach those goals. As I like to say, setting goals is easy. Reaching them is another story. If goals were always easy to reach, we’d all be Olympians, or Nobel Peace Prize recipients, or doctors, or whatever else requires tremendous dedication and commitment.

But we rarely don’t reach our goals because we don’t WANT to reach them. There are a lot of other reasons that can get in the way, such as:

• We have unrealistic expectations. We are a “give it to me now” society. If it didn’t take only 5 minutes to be in a situation that you want to change, it’s likely going to take more than 5 minutes to change it. Don’t fall victim to false advertising of having the perfect (body, relationship, job, etc.) in a short amount of time with minimal effort. That’s not realistic. And when we go into goals with unrealistic expectations, we will be disappointed and often quit way too early to see any real results.
• We’re not quite ready. Reaching a goal takes a commitment of time, energy, focus, and motivation. While we may really want something, we might not be able to make the commitment necessary right now. That doesn’t mean we won’t be able to make that commitment tomorrow or next week or next year. But right now may just not be in the cards. It’s okay to not be ready.
• We don’t have the right support. “It takes a village” is a phrase that especially relates well to reaching goals. Some of us want to do it all on our own, but how’s that working for you? Chances are, not great. Having others to support you on your journey is important, whether it’s people to cheer you on, hold you accountable, provide suggestions, etc. If you don’t have that, reaching goals can be challenging.

Whatever reason you have for not reaching a goal, remember to be kind and gentle with yourself. We’ve all set goals and not reached them. But that shouldn’t deter you from continuing to set goals for yourself.

For more ideas on how to set (and reach) your goals, please join me for my next monthly FREE Telseminar, “Getting it Done: How to Set Goals (and Really Reach Them).” Simply go to the REGISTRATION page at https://krylyn.com/free-teleseminars/getting-it-done/, and enter your name and email to get signed up. Even if you can’t attend the live call, you will get access to the recording of the call, but only if you register.

Photo: Finish Line © by jayneandd

Top 10 Songs About Breaking Down

Life is a roller coaster of emotions as I deal with my mom’s death and all that comes with it – settling her estate, selling her home, going through her things, and OH YEA…grieving. Since music is so important in my life, I thought I’d list my top 10 songs about breaking down. While you may not be going through the same type of breakdown, we all have our moments from time to time. Enjoy my top 10 favs. And feel free to add a comment below with any other suggestions for songs to cry by.

1. Start of the Breakdown by Tears for Fears

2. Small Blue Thing by Suzanne Vega

3. Breathe Me by Sia

4. Black by Sarah McLachlan

5. Coming Undone by Korn

6. Come Undone by Duran Duran

7. This Woman’s Work by Kate Bush

8. Gravity by John Mayer

9. Let go by Frou Frou

10. Bridge Over Troubled Water by Simon & Garfunkel

Show Those Goals Who’s Boss!

When it comes to achieving goals, most people have something to say about it. Which is good, becuase most of us look for advice. Setting goals isn’t hard. Reaching them is another story.

Here’s an inspiration movie with tips on reaching goals. Just some friendly reminders to help keep you on track. Enjoy!

Are You Ready to Set (and Reach) Your Goals?

Tired of setting goals, going at them with full force, then losing momentum so quickly it makes your head spin? Does it seem like you’re great at setting goals but not at reaching them? Are you ready to finally learn simple, practical ways to set and reach your goals?

From losing weight, to finding love, to getting promoted, to going back to school, there doesn’t seem to be a lack of goals we set in our society. After all, we’re a goal-driven culture, focused on achieving and acquiring the next best thing. But so many people have difficulty reaching their goals. We get side-tracked. We get overwhelmed. We get discouraged. But it doesn’t have to be like that.

If you’re ready to get real about reaching your goals, please join me for the August FREE Teleseminar… “Getting It Done: How to Set Goals (and Really Reach Them).”

In this teleseminar, I’ll cover:

• Why Most Goals Are Never Reached (And How You Can Reverse That Trend)
• How to Tell If You’re Really Ready for Change (or Not)
• How to Set Yourself Up to Succeed at Any Goal You Ever Set For Yourself
• A 4-Step Model for Setting (And Reaching) Any Goal

Don’t delay. Sign up today. The live call is coming soon. But don’t worry, if you can’t attend live, you can still sign up and get access to the recording. Simply go to the REGISTRATION page and enter your name and email to get signed up.

Are You Really Ready to Change?

“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” ~ Larry Elder

What do you want in your life RIGHT NOW? Better health? Better relationships? Education? Career? Family? Are you working toward it or just thinking about it? Wishing it would magically appear with little to no effort or pouring your time and energy into making it happen?

Setting goals is easy. Reaching them is another story.

There are several reasons we might not reach a goal, but in the end it really comes down to one thing – whether or not we’re really ready for the change required to reach the goal. Sometimes we get tripped up into the amount of time, energy, money, sacrifice, or whatever it will take to reach the goal. Sometimes we think about what that change will mean – how it will affect our lives, relationships, and routines. One thing to always remember when figuring out whether or not you’re ready for change is that it’s okay if you’re not ready right now.

Because our society is so goal-driven, there can be a stigma associated with not reaching goals. There are expectations (spoken and unspoken) about what we SHOULD do (as well as when and how). My response to that? Stop SHOULDING all over yourself (and allowing others to should all over you too).

When you’re ready you will know. How? You will:

• Weigh the pros and cons of changing, and realize the benefits outweigh the costs
• Have some doubts you can do it, but look for ways to overcome them (rather than let them talk you out of what you want)
• Start making small changes to create the right environment to help you succeed
• Ask for help if you need it
• Go for it!

For more tips on how to tell if you’re ready for change, please join me for my next monthly FREE Telseminar, “Getting it Done: How to Set Goals (and Really Reach Them).” Simply go to the REGISTRATION page at https://krylyn.com/free-teleseminars/getting-it-done/, and enter your name and email to get signed up. Even if you can’t attend the live call, you will get access to the recording of the call, but only if you register.

Photo: Start Starting Line Americorps Cinema Service Night Wilcox Park May 20, 20117 © by stevendepolo

Isn’t Life Delicious?

Juicy. Poignant. Bitter. Sweet. What other words can you think of to describe this journey called life we’re all on?

I love words, phrases, mantras, affirmations, anything that touches on one or more of the senses and draws me in. For some reason the term “isn’t life delicious” popped into my head recently. Have you ever heard that before? This was a slogan on a TV commercial for Lifesavers candy back in the 1980’s/1990’s (watch the video below). And a catch phrase that resurfaces for me from time to time, especially during profound change. So it wasn’t surprising when it came back to me recently as I am definitely dealing with some profound personal changes right now.

One of the things I love about that phrase is the images and metaphors it evokes. Life as something to be devoured, savored, and enjoyed. How many times do we look at life or our circumstances (family, jobs, responsibilities) as anything less than delicious? Possibly foul tasting and repulsive, putrid, or any other negative description you can think of? I think many of us have a tendency to focus on what tastes bad and discount the simple delicacies of life.

Each time I say this phrase, either out loud or silently to myself, I can’t help but smile. It’s a reminder to shift my perspective and not take things too seriously (which is something I often need to be reminded of).

So, how delicious is your life right now? Here’s some ideas to help you taste the yumminess, rather than the ickiness:

1. Write a list of all the good things that happened to you today. They don’t have to be big things or necessarily important things. Make a goal of writing at least 5 things, then 10, then 15, and so on. It may be challenging at first, but it will get easier the more often you do it. Once you complete your list for the day, say all the good things aloud, then say thank you.
2. When someone around you is complaining for the sake of complaining, look them in the eye, smile, and say “isn’t life delicious?” They may just smile with you.
3. Create some yumminess for yourself by engaging in something you truly enjoy, something that you generally find delicious. One of the things I do on a regular basis is get a massage. It helps me slow down, relax, and be in the present moment, all required for tasting the deliciousness.
4. Spread the deliciousness around. Do something to add flavor to someone else’s life. It could be a family member, friend, colleague, or stranger. It could be something big or small. Get creative with it.

I’d love to hear how you created a more delicious life. Leave a comment below.