The Most Relaxing Song Ever?

I’m always on the lookout for music that heals. Here’s a video of a song professed to be “the most relaxing song ever.” Take a listen and see what you think. You can read more about the song and what researchers found here –> http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2049948/Most-relaxing-song-UK-band-Boffins.html

YOU are Creative, Really!

It amazes me how often people tell me how un-creative they are when they find out I am a songwriter, as if I am standing there in judgment. Can everyone write songs? Well, I believe yes, they can. But that’s beside the point. The point is everyone is creative, whether it be in making music or something else entirely.

The trick is first defining the word creative. Broken down, creativity can be defined as the ability to create. That’s simple enough. We create every day, whether it be a daydream while waiting in rush hour traffic or a task on the job.

Many people associate creativity with art or music, but what about problem-solving? When’s the last time you came up with a creative solution that no one else around you thought of (that really worked)? Or looked at a situation in a whole different perspective that really helped you get through a difficult time?

We often fail to recognize smaller feats of creativity, passing them off as unimportant or uninspired. But truly it is the smaller moments and our reaction to them that create the bigger picture…how we live and experience life, which in turn affects our overall well-being.

Here’s some things you might try to tap into your creative side:

1. Write a list of things you created that you are proud of.
2. Sing your favorite song in the car as if no one is watching you.
3. Get some sleep. Creativity flows better when you are rested.
4. Write a poem (or song) about something you do every day, like brushing your teeth or fixing breakfast. Sound silly? Good! Silliness is a sure sign that creativity is nearby.
5. Find 3 ways to solve the same problem, then try all of them to see what happens.

So, redefine what creativity is for you and then get creating. I’d love to hear about what you created today – leave a comment below.

Photo: Brush Teeth © by kkinjo

Want to Learn Ways to Boost Your Confidence and Self Esteem?

March is the beginning of Spring and RENEWAL. And the perfect time to renew your commitment to yourself and to any new goals you’ve set for the new year. Sure it’s easy to get off track, and that’s exactly why we’re taking a look at it now. Before it gets even more off track and you move to an attitude of “why bother now.”

It’s often the small steps we take that make the biggest difference. But when we get overwhelmed and side-tracked with all the details of our lives, it’s easy to succumb to the pressure and go back to what we know, even if what we know isn’t good for us.

Are you ready to add some small steps to your life that will have BIG pay-offs and lead to MORE calm, MORE peace, MORE success, and MORE confidence? Then please join me for March’s FREE Teleseminar…“Consistency is Key: How Routines Can Boost Your Confidence.”

In this teleseminar, I’ll cover:

• The Myths (and Truths) About Being Consistent
• How NOT Having Routines is Magnifying Your Stress and Possibly Sending You Over the Edge
• 3 Routines You Can Add to Your Life Today to Boost Your Confidence and Self Esteem

Don’t delay. Sign up today. The live call is coming soon. But don’t worry, if you can’t attend live, you can still sign up and get access to the recording. Simply go to the REGISTRATION page and enter your name and email to get signed up.

10 Ways to Magnify Your Stress, Send Yourself Over the Edge, and Stay in the Drama Zone

WARNING: A sense of humor is required to fully appreciate this article.

For all the drama-seekers, chaos-creators, and wheel-spinners, this article is for YOU. Don’t get bogged down with all that mumbo-jumbo about being happy, reaching your goals, and blah blah blah. It’s all a bunch of #@*&! You know where the real fun lies…in never knowing what’s going to happen, never being prepared for the unexpected, and always feeling disconnected, out-of-sorts, and ready to explode with frustration and stress. So read on, my dear drama queens (and kings). Read how to stay in that place you love oh so well…the DRAMA ZONE!

1. Say yes to every request that comes your way. You don’t want people to not like you, think bad about you, or talk about you behind your back. Besides, everyone else’s needs are a much higher priority than yours.
2. Let others completely dictate your schedule, from the time you wake up until the time you pass out somewhere between your last task and your bed.
3. Never prepare for anything, including meetings, parent-teacher conferences, social events, meals, your future, etc. Leaving it up to everyone and everything else is so much more…”fun.”
4. Don’t take any time off…ever. Taking time off is a sign of weakness. That means no breaks and no vacations. And certainly no time off when you’re sick or your kids are sick.
5. Eat only while doing other things too in order to maximize your productivity. So what if you get pasta sauce on your computer keyboard or if your phone accidentally takes a dive into the toilet.
6. Don’t worry about putting things away. Just leave them where they fall. Papers, magazines, bills, clothes, trash. Just think of all the time you’ll save by not organizing or getting rid of things you don’t need.
7. Resist any urge to organize your time. Throw away any calendars, alarm clocks, timers, and watches. You’ll show up when you show up.
8. Constantly bombard yourself with noise – from the TV blaring, to loud music on your radio or mp3 player. Silence is highly overrated.
9. Give up on your dreams. You don’t have the time or energy to tend to them anyway.
10. Always believe everything you see and hear in the media. Those guys get paid a lot of money, so they must know what they’re talking about and would never steer you wrong.

Okay, now that that foolishness is done, I hope you can see how we sometimes actually say and think these things without even realizing it. But having them written out like this, I also hope you can see how silly they are. When we get into that DRAMA ZONE, it can be a challenge to see just how twisted our thoughts become, and how easy it is to fall into some of these traps…thinking if we just worked harder, worked more, then we would get caught up and feel less stressed. But we need to consistently tend to our own needs in order to feel the inner peace we long for.

For some REAL ideas on how to consistently take good care of you, minimize your stress, and stay as far away from the drama zone as possible, please join me for my next monthly FREE Telseminar, “Consistency is Key: How Routines Can Boost Your Confidence.” Simply go to the REGISTRATION page at https://krylyn.com/dev/free-teleseminars/consistency-is-key, and enter your name and email to get signed up. Even if you can’t attend the live call, you will get access to the recording of the call, but only if you register.

Boy with Yellow Magnifying Glass © by barbourians

Self Care Tip: Busting the Myth that Consistency is Boring

Some say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result. Which means that the definition of sanity would read something like doing the same thing over and over and expecting the same result. If that’s true, it sure is good news!

Being consistent is one of the most beneficial things you can do for yourself. But, consistency gets a bad reputation sometimes. There’s a lot of myths out there about what it means to be consistent. Here’s just one:

Being consistent means being BORING

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard that one. Routines? Boring! Doing the same thing over and over? BORING!

Let me ask you this…what’s boring about:

• Setting yourself up to be successful?
• Providing the optimal environment (both internal and external) to get what you want out of life?
• Giving yourself a safety net of knowing what to expect (which means LESS drama, LESS chaos, and MORE peace)?

I believe (from both my own personal experience and my experiences with my clients), that many of us grow up with drama all around us. We come to know it, become intimate with it, expect it, and then count on it like an old friend. Its allure is intoxicating. Because if we’re caught up in drama, we don’t have to focus on the other stuff going on in our lives, and then (gulp!) we don’t have to take responsibility when our lives aren’t going the way we want. But drama comes with a huge price – not knowing HOW to take good care of ourselves on all levels, or worse yet, not fully knowing that we DESERVE to take good care of ourselves.

When we grow up with drama, we learn to trust it. And that means anything that isn’t filled with drama seems BORING and awkward. It’s hard to be caught up in drama AND consistently making good choices about your self care at the same time. (I dare you to try!).

Here’s some GOOD choices for your own self care that you can do on a consistent basis that will help you reach your goals (no matter what they are):

• Go to bed at the same time each night
• Create a bedtime ritual for yourself (which can include things like a skin care regimen, dental hygiene, putting on scented body lotion, journaling your gratitudes for the day, etc.)
• Say something positive to yourself each morning when you wake up
• Eat breakfast every morning
• Say “no” when you really want to
• Ask for help when you really need it

Remember, sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone to get different results. So instead of expecting DIFFERENT results with the same action, try expecting the SAME results with the same action. But only if you’re ready to give up drama.

And for even more ideas on how to be a better you, please join me for my next monthly FREE Telseminar, “Consistency is Key: How Routines Can Boost Your Confidence.” Simply go to the REGISTRATION page at https://krylyn.com/free-teleseminars/consistency-is-key, and enter your name and email to get signed up. Even if you can’t attend the live call, you will get access to the recording of the call, but only if you register.

How to Reach Your Goals by Being Consistent

March is the beginning of Spring and RENEWAL. And the perfect time to renew your commitment to yourself and to any new goals you’ve set for the New Year. Sure it’s easy to get off track, and that’s exactly why it’s important to take a look at it now. Before it gets even more off track and you move to an attitude of “why bother now.”

One of the biggest reasons we get off track with our goals is because they seem so overwhelming. And when life gets messy (with all the responsibilities, obligations, and endless things to do), it’s challenging not only to take on something new, but to keep it going. But when you give up on a goal, it can feel like giving up on yourself, yet again. Which can lead to further feelings of frustration.

So how do you get off the spinning wheel of overwhelm, frustration, and giving up on your goals? The answer is CONSISTENCY.

When we aren’t consistent in our efforts, we don’t get consistent results. It’s that simple. So getting to your goals requires consistent effort. It’s often the small steps we take that make the biggest difference. But when we get overwhelmed and side-tracked with all the details of our lives, it’s easy to succumb to the pressure and go back to what we know, even if what we know isn’t good for us.

Think back to when you made your New Year’s goals (or any recent goals for that matter). You probably had some excitement around the goal as you looked into the future at the result of reaching that goal. You also probably had an intention of reaching that goal that fueled your motivation and your energy to be able to work toward the goal. But what happened a few days or weeks later? Did your enthusiasm waver or did your intention get replaced with negative thoughts and inaction?

Here’s some tips for bringing a little more consistency to your goals (and life):

1. Get clear on your intention. Make sure your actions consistently are aligned with your goal. For example, if your goal is to lose weight, you want to eat healthy and exercise more often than not. I’m not talking being 100% perfect all the time…that’s impossible. I’m talking about making good choices more often than poor choices. Keep your intention close to you, in the form of a picture or a statement, and post it where you can see it several times each day.
2. Do what works. First, you have to know what works. Find someone else who has already reached the goal you’re aiming for and ask for some pointers. You can also find information on the internet, at the library, etc. But resist the urge to quit something just because you don’t know HOW to do it. There’s always ways to find out HOW to do something in this information age.
3. Be gentle with yourself. I cannot emphasize this point enough. We all need some incentive when we’re making changes. Reward your successes and acknowledge your accomplishments. Keep positive thoughts and energy surrounding you as you make changes. If you slip up, forgive yourself and move on.

And to learn even more of the benefits of being consistent, please join me for my next monthly FREE Telseminar, “Consistency is Key: How Routines Can Boost Your Confidence.” Simply go to the REGISTRATION page at https://krylyn.com/dev/free-teleseminars/consistency-is-key, and enter your name and email to get signed up. Even if you can’t attend the live call, you will get access to the recording of the call, but only if you register.