Step 2 of 4 to Get Out of Your Own Damn Way and Embrace Your Friggin’ Greatness Already
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On June 4, 2015, the first weekly episode of the Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Podcast aired with me sharing a bit of my story and how I got in AND out of my own damn way. Since then, I’ve interviewed guests from 8 countries across 4 continents around the world to find out how they have learned to get out of their own damn way too.
For those of you who don’t know me yet, my name is Krylyn Peters. I’m known as “The Fear Whisperer,” and my mission is to help female entrepreneurs and want-repreneurs tame their fear, embrace their greatness, and get out of their own damn way so they can create their mission-filled, heart-centered, soul-inspired business.
This is the second episode of my one-year anniversary series, where I’m sharing what I’ve learned from my podcast guests this first year.
Today I’m going to share Step 2 of 4 to Get Out of Your Own Damn Way and Embrace Your Friggin’ Greatness Already.
If you missed me sharing about Step 1, head on over to krylyn.com/50.
You might want to download the special worksheet I created to go along with this episode, “Accept Yourself to Greatness.” You can use it to dive in a little deeper into Step 2.
[et_bloom_inline optin_id=optin_8]Step 2: Accept Yourself
Once we know who we are, we might expect it to all be rainbows and unicorns. But often, it’s not. The next step is just as necessary to getting out of our own damn way as knowing ourselves, and that’s to Accept Ourselves.
In Step 1 when we’re getting to know ourselves, we might be faced with some harsh truths about ourselves, how we’ve handled (or not handled) things, what we’ve said and done to contribute to our own unhappiness. And let me tell you, if you choose to stay stuck in regret, shame, guilt, unworthiness, or any other thought or emotion that doesn’t serve your growth, that is a CHOICE. Yep, I said it. It’s a choice.
What else might not accepting yourself look like:
- Sabotaging your efforts to start or grow your business
- Not owning your value and the expertise you bring to the table
- Feeling like a big fat fraud no matter how many certifications you have or initials there are after your name
- Making excuses for why you can’t do something
Luckily, berating yourself is only ONE option. Another option is to learn to accept yourself. So let’s go over some of the great ways you can do that.
[et_bloom_inline optin_id=optin_8]1. Take responsibility without beating yourself up.
I cannot stress enough the importance of taking responsibility. This means accepting all the GOOD things along with the not so good things. But I find fem-preneurs tend to up-play their flaws and down-play their awesome. STOP DOING THAT. Yes, taking responsibility involves “owning up to your mess” as guest Victoria Klein said, but it also involves owning up to your greatness. And that, my friends, seems to be the real issue here.
Having a big-ass mission is scary. And when things are scary we tend to back away and go from an overly competent, overachieving, multi-talented, butt-kicking mogul to a drooling puddle of goo on the floor. Again STOP DOING THAT.
I promise, once you start taking responsibility for the things you’re not proudest of, your confidence will skyrocket, your brilliance will sparkle, and you’ll be allowing space for all the greatness within you to pour out and do its magic.
But you need to put those big girl pants on, buck up, and do it.
Like my guests StevieAnne Petit, Donya Zimmerman, Anna Lundberg, Jacqueline Freeman, and Je Tuan Jones.
And Nicole Marie who boldly declared “I have a choice to continue not to live this way.”
Once we take responsibility, I think it’s important to introduce a bit of gentleness to our practice of accepting ourselves. The theme of self love and acceptance was one of the biggest ones talked about by my guests. So let’s dive into another way you can accept yourself, which just happens to be something I say to my clients and students ALL THE TIME:
2. Be kind and gentle with yourself.
I wish we were all on the same page with this one. That I could just say those words “Be kind and gentle with yourself” and you would know exactly what I mean, what to do, and go do it. But alas, it is a practice. One we need to engage in frequently and on an ongoing basis.
Loving ourselves touches on so much…from the food we eat, to the things we say to ourselves, to the standards we hold ourselves to, to the rituals we practice daily that either support or hinder our growth.
Several of my guests honed in on the importance of loving ourselves…Adele Brimâge, Barbara Iuliano, Heather Criswell, and Wendy Whitmore, to name a few.
One of the most touching interviews I had was with Cathy Sikorski, a lawyer turned humorist who helps caregivers of terminally ill patients. She talked about the effect humor can have on lightening things up so we don’t lose our minds. And in our conversation I shared a very personal story about the final moments I spent with my mom before she passed.
THIS is what I mean by being gentle. We must stop DOING and start BEING. Give ourselves permission to forgive, surrender, allow, and be seemingly inappropriate from time to time.
Like guests Leah Cox, Mary Calesto, Dr. Mekel Harris, Monique Alamedine, Stacey Blanchet, and Stéphanie de Geus.
In the next installment in this special one-year anniversary series, I’ll be sharing Step 3 to Get Out of Your Own Damn Way and Embrace Your Friggin’ Greatness Already.
