If you are one of the many people who is celebrating Valentine’s Day sans partner this year, don’t fret. Let me clue you in on a secret…
Being loved doesn’t require anyone else besides you.
Sound corny? Well just think about people you know who have partners and aren’t happy. And people in relationships “for the sake of…(the kids, finances, etc.).” Some may have you believing love is conditional, and that the only way to have love is to be loved by another. But if you don’t love yourself, how in the world can you expect someone else to love you?
Think about what love means to you. What things do people say and do when they love someone else? Are they critical or gentle with their comments? Do they find the best in others and situations or do they constantly berate those around them? What little things do they do to show love? Think about love in terms of your five senses: sight, touch, sound, taste, and smell. Whatever love means to you, make a point to figure it out. It’s so important to know how YOU experience love. Because once you have an idea, then you can make it happen for yourself, whether or not you are in a relationship.
This February 14th (and beyond), treat yourself well by:
- Making a list of all the things that make you feel loved. Remember to think in terms of your five senses. For example, a particular word or phrase (such as “I love you”) might conjure up feelings of love (sound); or your favorite decadent dessert (chocolate) might stir up something (smell, taste).
- Picking one thing on your list each day and make it happen. If it’s a word or phrase, then say that to yourself.
- At the end of each day, finishing this sentence (either out loud or in a journal), “one thing I love about me is _____.”
For even more ideas on how to love yourself, please join me for my next monthly FREE Telseminar, “Loving the Reflection in the Mirror: The Secret Power of Self Love and Positive Self Talk.” Simply go to the REGISTRATION page and enter your name and email to get signed up. Even if you can’t attend the live call, you will get access to the recording of the call, but only if you register.
Photo: Smarties: Heart Mapping © by gadl
